ONE WALKING RED FLAG

Looking back, it gives classic love bombing. The near immediate "soul connection", how you are "his person", and "the vibe is unmatched", way before you've had a chance to see beneath the mask. The way he can make you feel like the only girl in the universe while simultaneously laying the groundwork for being able to do whatever he wants when no one is watching ("just looking to have fun"). The phone constantly set to DND like that is normal person behavior for a man with no job (not one that won't put him in jail, anyway). The ever-changing cadence of his communication style (overly communicative -think 6 hour phone calls -to non-existent, like crickets for up to what could be days at a time -in a constant cycle). Always having an excuse or a story about a "solo adventure" or just enjoying some bro-time with the guys, communing with nature/the moon/blah blah only to find out otherwise shortly thereafter. Only choosing women who he knows he can manipulate because, as much as it pains to admit, although amazing--they may be vulnerable to his wiles in some way (desperate for love, still healing from past trauma, etc.).

Bet you get the same songs sent to you, taken to all his "secret" outdoor spots that belong to all of us now, he'll bring you food--sometimes from mama's house, and may even introduce you to the family, open up about his past trauma even, love on your pets and your kids (at first anyway), play nice with your family. This is all a trap.

Don't fall for it. Unless you get the passcode to that phone girlie, AKA the key to the kingdom, you are not safe. Even then, when he gives it to you, it will change soon thereafter. So keep asking. Or keep a close eye. It's your sanity, heart, mental health, spiritual health, physical health, finances, and other relationships with others in your life that is at stake if you deal with this one. There IS nothing at stake for him - he doesn't wait to lose one to replace them - it's just "on to the next". We, collectively, don't want to see you go through the same heartache.